Author: Regina Howland

Early on in my private practice, I was tabling at a street fair in an effort to drum up business. I told a gentleman that I was a counselor as he was passing by. He told me he didn’t need counseling. He had the Lord. I didn’t have time to tell him, “Wait! I also…
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Smart phones have become as common as televisions and computers. It’s rare to meet someone without one. Not only that, there’s an expectation that you have one. A significant issue arises when we are expected to constantly be accessible to anyone and everyone. This creates a cultural norm – phones at the dinner table, staying…
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If I asked you to close your eyes and remember the last time you were assertive, could you do it? I’m gonna clarify real quick because unfortunately people continue to get “assertive” and “aggressive” mixed up. There’s three ways to communicate that I want you to focus on: First, aggressive. You know it when you…
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When you think of issues that people struggle with that might cause them shame, you might list things like porn addiction, gambling, sex addiction, hoarding. But less often do you hear about people who struggle with binge eating. If you struggle with this, you know that shame is always involved. And it’s irrelevant if your…
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Yes, it sucks that we didn’t find out about our beautiful, complex, wild-puppy, ADHD brains until our 40’s. What the frick is up with that?! I find that, as in many different areas of life, asking “why” doesn’t do anything productive, but mostly just leaves us frustrated and feeling badly about ourselves. So let’s just…
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Sometimes it feels like life transitions are constant. Once you get the hang of something, it’s time to move on to something new. This can be very overwhelming at times and can leave you feeling like you’re never gonna be great at anything. When you’re a kid, it happens with elementary school, puberty, middle school,…
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